Saturday, June 1, 2013

The "I" Relationship - 'Intercaste'

 People all over the world are very good at stamping. This one thing we as human beings have perfected over time beautifully and have diligently followed it too. We stamp people with stereotypes, with religions, castes, nationality and any other label or brand you can think of. Have you ever visited a shop that makes stamps illegally? They keep stamps in groups depending upon their purpose. Like stamps for government offices, stamps for private offices and several other such groups divided in various boxes. That's what we have done over ages, divided ourselves into various boxes and slowly and slowly the walls of the boxes have grown so high that either we no longer wish to see outside the box or we are unable to if we want.
As you might have guessed today’s topic is about the walls created by caste. When a child is born it just that a child, it has no religion, caste, nationality etc. How can it have, it has just arrived into this branded and stamped world. Even before the child understands anything it starts hearing words like religion, castes etc. Parents specifically say that people of those castes are not good, you should not mingle with them, and these people are below our class, you cannot marry that girl or guy as they are not from our caste and the list goes on
My focus here is specifically intercaste marriages. People say that marriages are made in heaven, they why parents and society get all worked up when the marriage does not suit their criteria of class, caste etc. The moment parents come to know that their son and daughter have chosen an intercaste partner, all sorts of emotional drama starts. All of a sudden the desire to please society becomes more important that the happiness of the son/ daughter. Sometimes the couple succeeds in changing the mindset of the parents but in most of the cases they aren't able to, which leaves them with only two choices - forget their love or elope. Both the choices are difficult as in both the cases they end up losing someone close to them either parents or their love.
One thing that boggles my mind is that why only in marriages the caste becomes so important. It has been proves scientifically that genetics of the future generation become weaker if the marriage happens within the same caste or community. TO keep the genetics strong it is important that marriages happen between people of different castes, or places. It keeps the future genes strong and healthy. But the narrow mind of the society can't understand or accept this fact. How can it when it practices honor killing if a couple has married against the wishes of the parents and society

These practices sicken me deeply. One of the biggest reasons for these is the attachment of ego with the marriage event. So much ego is involved in the entire process that sometimes I feel marriage is being done for the guy and the girl or for the society. Because of the ego I feel that caste becomes an impenetrable barrier when it comes to marriage.

This society and we as individuals need to understand that Intercaste relationships are necessary for better future generations. Who are we do differentiate and discriminate on the basis of caste when the same blood flows in all of us. And more importantly who are we to separate to people in love, especially when the only issue is caste and rest everything is ok.

I know for anyone reading it will easy to agree, but actual test comes when it happens to our own kids or in our own family. If we can agree to "I" relationship at that time we have done our service in improving one of many sins of the society.

Let’s be the part of this tough decision and be the SOLUTION.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Love For Woman

If you want to scar a woman
for the rest of her life,
if you want to seat yourself
upon a throne of lies
that you yourself constructed,
if you want to tell yourself
that you are more than some
frightened, delusional boy
and this woman is somehow
more, some sort of faerie-thing
that you have bound to flesh,

make her your muse.

If you truly love her,
you would do better
to stab her with a knife
even better,

keep her smile and her tears
many miles from the page.

She Is my All

I write ‘she’ instead of me. Instead of I. I find it easier to say, she wants to die. I find it easier to express how badly I’m hurt through someone else’s life that seems has some worth. See if I tell you that she’s beautiful, that’s the image you’ll be forced to see. But if I say I’m beautiful you’ll be stuck envisioning me. So I share my stories through a girl i’ve never seen.

 A girl that in many ways I have never been. I’ve described myself with a smile that I have never gleamed. With a purpose, with a wit, with morality, with a substance more anything, than I have ever dreamed. So I do write myself as me hypothetically except she - is honest. Is pure. She’s not sure of everything but she makes the best out of a bad situation. She is curious. Passionate. Intriguing. Delicate. She is mixed up, but very simplistic which she feels very few people will ever discover. She is more than her exterior.  She is misunderstood, sometimes genius, loving, but scared so she keeps her distance. For instance. Her first love lived approximately twenty-two hundred and six miles away. For millions of people they would be physically and emotionally starved, but in fact. She was most comfortable like that. She wants to be held but doesn’t want to ask.

She wants to act on how she feels without moving too fast. She wants to please everyone, but she can’t so herself. So she puts on a mask and pretends to be strong, tries to blend in to seem like she belongs. But the truth of it all is that she will never blend in, she will never follow the pack, she will never be happy like that. She isn’t hopeless, but she’s still a stupid little girl sometimes who demands respect she shouldn’t get. She just requires something genuine because she has a void to fill. See, she can admit that, but I never will.

Friday, August 17, 2012

Unwritten Truth of Marriage Life

Marriage is one of the most graceful moments in one’s life but there are some people who were cursed with marriage life. This is because the expectation of people never gets satisfied after marriage. It is quite natural that all possess some expectation about their life partner. Obviously no one can restrict these thoughts as they are natural thoughts of a person. Only solution to handle marriage life safely is to know about the life partner well before marriage. A marriage record search background check on people is one of the best and easiest sources to retrieve all the information about your partner.

Get the Marriage records

Marriage record search is nothing but a source where the data of many individuals will be gathered for instant retrieval. There are many online sites which greatly assist his record search. People who are supposed to prefer marriage can refer these sites and retrieve the data about their life partner instantly. This search can be used to check whether your life partner is divorce free and you can also refer to their marital status. This will help in possessing a risk free marriage life. Some important need for matrimonial verification is as follows.
There are many culprits in society who possess affairs before marriage. This is considered as the main reason which leads to divorce. Only solution to overcome this problem is to track the background of your spouse. This will completely reveal details of your spouse if they possess any affairs. Thus, you can possess a better awareness to safe guard your marriage life.
It is highly necessary to ensure whether your spouse is divorce free because if they are not divorce free, your marriage will be considered as illegal. Hence if your spouse is marrying you the second time you need to verify their divorce certificate.
This record search not only retrieves marital data but also the criminal records like arrest records. You can verify whether your spouse holds any legal criminal records. Criminal record search will provide you the entire details if your spouse possesses any such criminal cases. This will help in knowing the recognition of your spouse in the society.
To retrieve all these data the only effort you need to prefer is, hiring an effective background check services. There are some free sites which can be used for instant retrieval of data. If you are in need of more data paid sites will be a better choice.

Author Bio:

Christopher Lee is a passionate researcher is 21 years old writer and blog designer. He mostly enjoys writing the recent problem which affect People much and find the solution from it. If you would like to reach him, send him an email to

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

A Small Poem By My Friend

I Will Share All My Thoughts,
& Feelings With You

I Promise You That
I Will Understand Everything That You Do

I Promise You That
I Will Be Completely Honest With You

I Promise You That
I Will Laugh & Cry With You

I Promise You That
I Will Share My Life With You

But -
Most Important Of All
I Promise You That
<3I Will Love You Forever....♥

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Valentines Day is coming

Valentines Day is coming. No cheating, put this as your status and see what people comment
1. Second Chance 2. Your cute ^.^
3. Kiss [:*]
4. Better friendship ( :
... 5. Chill [^_^]
6. Cuddle [:3]
7. Long term relationship [♥]
8. an apology [:/]
9. a hug ^_____^
... 10.I like you [♥]
11. I dislike you.
12. I'm crushing on you $: [♥]
13. I love you [:]] [♥]
14. Will you be my Valentine ? [♥] [;)]
Do let me know watever it is?! [:)] :)­ ­

True love

A poor boy loved a rich girl.
One day the boy proposed her.
Then the girl said, "listen! your
monthly salary is my daily hand
expenses. Should I be involved
with you? How could you thought
that? I will never love you. So,
forget me 'n get engaged with
someone else of your level."
But somehow the boy could not
forget her so easily.

10 years later.

One day they became face to face
in a shopping center. The lady
said, "Hey! you! How are you?
Now I'm married. Do you know
how much is my husband's
salary? Rs. 2 lac per month! Can
you imagine? 'n he is also very

The guy's eyes got wet with tear
by hearing those words.
After few minutes her husband
came before the lady could say
something to the guy, her
husband started to say by seeing
the guy.

"Sir! You here? Meet my wife."
Then he said to her wife, "I'm
going to assist a project of sir,
which is of Rs. 200 crore. 'n do u
know a fact? Sir loved a girl but he
didn't get her. That's why still he
is unmarried. How much lucky the
girl was. Isn't it? Now a days who
can love like that way?"

Moral: Life is not so short. So,
don't be so proud of yourself and
damn others. ..
Situations change with time. Every
one should respect other's love.